Re: very needy
Posted by joni on 4/07/09
On 4/07/09, karen wrote:
> On 4/06/09, joni wrote:
>> meatball is 4yrs old.love him.i can do anything to and
>> with him.very loving bird,however he needs me in his sight
>> constantly or he will call me incessantly.this can really
>> drive a person insane and i have actually left my own home
>> just to get some peace.i have tried many things to try to
>> get him out of this habit with no success.i've spent a
>> small fortune on training techniques.nothing helps.as much
>> as i love him i am actually cosidering sending him to a
>> bird rescue.i'm desperate. it's the last thing i want to
>> do.but i don't feel i have a choice.my quality of life is
>> being hurt.someone PLEASE HELP ME!
> I had this problem with my TAG rescue.
> This is an insecure bird trying to maintain contact with its
> flock. You are the “flock”.
> Poor little guy can not figure why You would leave and not
> stay in contact! And where are you going?
> In the wild loosing the flock is death!
> One of the first things to do is take the birds for a walk
> around the house. They need to know the lay of the house &
> that there are no dangers.
> It also helps them understand where you go when they can not
> see you. Take the walk & explain the rooms each day with
> each bird, after a time once a wk may be good.
> They need to understand the house is not a danger & the
> house is there home When I leave the room I explain where I
> am going with the same words used during the house tour.
> This is the laundry room, -I am going to the laundry room
> etc, Most birds pick up words & will start to understand
> where you are going & what is going on.
> It takes a bit of time, & no yelling on your part is
> allowed. It also helps if the house is quiet
> So they can hear what is going on & do not have to yell over
> the TV or radio
> -You will not have a quiet bird in a loud house.
> -Next when you are in another room make a call, I
> use “WooHoo” Use something you want them to repeat! This
> will be your flock contact call.
> My Grey needed a sound to use when he was upset & needed to
> call to me. WooHoo was a sound I could stand.
> Do not go running to them after they start yelling,
> understand why they yell & work with it.
> The above can work if there other needs are being met.
> Proper food, cage layout, lots of toys, lighting, 8-10hr
> sleep time, afternoon quiet time, active playtime, face time
> with you Etc. etc. I have also found that my OWA becomes
> entrance with the TV. He likes square bob sponge pants &
> the bird sitter video.
> All birds are different, & you have to try different thing
> to see what works. -I have found that playing chase & throw
> for 5 min will keep my TAG happy for some time. I toss a
> wiffle ball to the right of him, he runs for it & throws it
> at me, then to the left etc. (Never at him) till he quits.
> I also have play areas in different parts of the house and
> take my guys around the house with me at times.
> I have cages in the basement for laundry day & tornado
> warnings. Many play areas, tons of toys & lots of fresh
> frt. & veg. 2X a day helps to keep my boys happy.
> One thing you have to take care with TOOs is not to sexually
> stimulate them by petting under the wings!
> If you have been doing that you will have to be especially
> patient as they have to learn to play with toys to displace
> the sexual obsession.
> -Take a deep breath & stay calm, birds can tell when you are
> upset "drama" & will just spin up more.
> Best of luck
dear karen thankyou so much for your advice.i will try
everything you have suggested.i do really love him and am
willing to keep trying.also i didn't realize i was sexually
stimulating him.geez.i'll stop that right away.