Spend more time with her when she is outside the cage because
you said she is okay. Avoid trying to get her out of the cage
for now. That loud noise she is making when you are trying to
take her out is a clear sign that she does not want you to.
If she comes to you when she is outside the cage, do it more
often. Get a perch stand. She is still young and could be
workable. If your girlfriend is going somewhere and you stay
home, ask your girlfriend to take her out before she leaves.
That is a good time to work on your grey. You'll get
FORCE IS A BIG NO NO. Once she snaps, it could be a habit and
you'll be sorry.