On 2/24/07, Melinda wrote:
> On 2/24/07, electra wrote:
>> hi paulo-
>> i gave the lady your #'s........so she should be callin:)
>> let me know if you get um....i told her i would let her
>> use the crate you sent Howard in. So you can have it
>> back:) Have a good Sunday...............
> as part of your neurosis de privacy, did you and Paul not
> exchange email addresses?
> Please tell me you did electra, after all you got a free
> this kind of conversation is really not necessary even on
> social board.
> stop already
> will I see you in church tomorrow?
We've all experienced jealousy at some time in our lives,
although the reasons why each of us gets jealous and the
emotions we feel may differ.
According to clinical psychologist Ayala Malach
Pines, "jealousy is a complex reaction to a perceived threat
to a valued relationship or to its quality". Unlike envy, it
always involves a fear of loss and three people.
Jealousy is a "complex reaction" because it involves such a
wide range of emotions, thoughts and behaviours.
Emotions - pain, anger, rage, sadness, envy, fear, grief,
Thoughts - resentment, blame, comparison with the rival, worry
about image, self-pity.
Behaviours - feeling faint, trembling and sweating, constant
questioning and seeking reassurance, aggressive actions, even
Jealousy heightens emotions, making love feel stronger and sex
more passionate. In small, manageable doses, jealousy can be a
positive force in a relationship. But when it's intense or
irrational, the story is very different.
Overcoming jealousy takes patience and hard work. If you feel
your jealousy stems from issues in childhood, you may find
counselling useful. If you're recovering from an affair,
you'll need to deal with those issues first.