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Re: very needy

Posted by joni on 4/07/09
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    On 4/07/09, karen wrote:
    > On 4/06/09, joni wrote:
    >> meatball is 4yrs him.i can do anything to and
    >> with him.very loving bird,however he needs me in his sight
    >> constantly or he will call me incessantly.this can really
    >> drive a person insane and i have actually left my own home
    >> just to get some peace.i have tried many things to try to
    >> get him out of this habit with no success.i've spent a
    >> small fortune on training techniques.nothing much
    >> as i love him i am actually cosidering sending him to a
    >> bird rescue.i'm desperate. it's the last thing i want to
    >> do.but i don't feel i have a quality of life is
    >> being hurt.someone PLEASE HELP ME!
    > I had this problem with my TAG rescue.
    > This is an insecure bird trying to maintain contact with its
    > flock. You are the “flock”.
    > Poor little guy can not figure why You would leave and not
    > stay in contact! And where are you going?
    > In the wild loosing the flock is death!
    > One of the first things to do is take the birds for a walk
    > around the house. They need to know the lay of the house &
    > that there are no dangers.
    > It also helps them understand where you go when they can not
    > see you. Take the walk & explain the rooms each day with
    > each bird, after a time once a wk may be good.
    > They need to understand the house is not a danger & the
    > house is there home When I leave the room I explain where I
    > am going with the same words used during the house tour.
    > This is the laundry room, -I am going to the laundry room
    > etc, Most birds pick up words & will start to understand
    > where you are going & what is going on.
    > It takes a bit of time, & no yelling on your part is
    > allowed. It also helps if the house is quiet
    > So they can hear what is going on & do not have to yell over
    > the TV or radio
    > -You will not have a quiet bird in a loud house.
    > -Next when you are in another room make a call, I
    > use “WooHoo” Use something you want them to repeat! This
    > will be your flock contact call.
    > My Grey needed a sound to use when he was upset & needed to
    > call to me. WooHoo was a sound I could stand.
    > Do not go running to them after they start yelling,
    > understand why they yell & work with it.
    > The above can work if there other needs are being met.
    > Proper food, cage layout, lots of toys, lighting, 8-10hr
    > sleep time, afternoon quiet time, active playtime, face time
    > with you Etc. etc. I have also found that my OWA becomes
    > entrance with the TV. He likes square bob sponge pants &
    > the bird sitter video.
    > All birds are different, & you have to try different thing
    > to see what works. -I have found that playing chase & throw
    > for 5 min will keep my TAG happy for some time. I toss a
    > wiffle ball to the right of him, he runs for it & throws it
    > at me, then to the left etc. (Never at him) till he quits.
    > I also have play areas in different parts of the house and
    > take my guys around the house with me at times.
    > I have cages in the basement for laundry day & tornado
    > warnings. Many play areas, tons of toys & lots of fresh
    > frt. & veg. 2X a day helps to keep my boys happy.
    > One thing you have to take care with TOOs is not to sexually
    > stimulate them by petting under the wings!
    > If you have been doing that you will have to be especially
    > patient as they have to learn to play with toys to displace
    > the sexual obsession.
    > -Take a deep breath & stay calm, birds can tell when you are
    > upset "drama" & will just spin up more.
    > Best of luck
    dear karen thankyou so much for your advice.i will try
    everything you have suggested.i do really love him and am
    willing to keep trying.also i didn't realize i was sexually
    stimulating him.geez.i'll stop that right away.